How to work with people (a continuation of how people work)

In my previous post, How people work, I gave a brief outline of the most general, predictable emotions and personality types of people. “How does knowing how people will react help me?” you might ask. Knowing how to work with people is probably one of the most important skills in the world today. It will effect your relationships, your careers, your education, so on and so forth. For example, if you are capable of working well with people, it will be very easy to advance into management positions and move higher in the ranks in your place of employment. You may still be thinking”That’s all fine and dandy, but you still haven’t told me how to interact with people.” Well, based on my previous post, interacting with people on a general level is quite simple. Straightforward people appreciate straightforwardness. It will increase your relationships with those people and increase their productivity. However, don’t try to beat around the bush. For roundabout people, you need to be more subtle. You must keep their feelings constantly in mind, and you need to be more creative about criticism. However, given the right incentives, they will shine.

How people work

No two people are exactly alike. Everybody has different looks, thumbprints, and life experiences. Emotions and reactions, however, are surprisingly some of the most predictable parts of human nature. Think of it this way (this is an incredibly toned down version of a deep field, but it will fit our interests just fine) – people are either straightforward or roundabout. Straightforward people generally value straight honesty and dislike secrets, subterfuge, and frilly emotions. Roundabout people are the exact opposite. It’s hard to get a direct response, emotions are usually very complex and confusing, and they will generally read into things, sometimes more than necessary. Hopefully this easy aid will assist you in your further encounters with people.

Analyzing Poetry

The practice of analyzing poetry is revered by some, and scorned by others. Some people think they can discover the deep, applicable meaning of some piece of poetry. For other people, analyzing poetry is nothing other than grasping for some meaning in an irrelevant work of words. I, as you may have already guessed, do not respect that practice. I believe that while there may be some value in analyzing the classics, poring over them in the hopes of finding some modern application is quite pointless. After all, perhaps the curtain is just blue because that’s what color it was, not to represent the depravity of mankind.

Romanticizing Strife

In the past couple years, I have encountered a multitude of young people who appear to act as if their whole life is a tragic romance novel. Everything they do and say reflects that they think that there is somehow a twisted beauty in things such as self-harm, depressed poetry and even suicide. Quite frankly, these are lies. There is nothing beautiful about any of these things. It’s tragic that so many young people in our generation feel this way. Further, to them, any of this kind of truth is only judgment by people who just don’t understand what they’re going through. My heart calls out to these young people to just wake up. There is nothing beautiful about self-harm, there is nothing nice about depression, and there is nothing tragic or romantic about suicide.

(I realize that this is an sensitive topic to some people. This post is nothing other than me posting the truth. Thanks a lot and feel free to comment.)

Paradise Lost, Completed

This week I completed the epic poem known as Paradise Lost. It was an interesting fictional depiction of the fall of mankind. While I did not take everything written as canon, it did provoke a couple of interesting thoughts for me. For example, what if mankind was created to fill the place of God’s followers in the stead of the angels who were kicked out of Heaven? While slightly difficult to read, it was a detailed description of the fall of mankind.

The difference between not-judging and condoning

For a Christian, there is a very delicate balance between judging sin and sinful habits that people have and condoning them. I feel like, as Christians, we often go to one extreme or the other. I’ve heard stories of Christians who basically bash the Bible and Hell over people’s heads, and I’ve heard stories of Christians who accept and embrace gaiety. Neither of these examples of responses are correct. As Christians we are called to bring love to all of the people of the world because God loves them. Unfortunately, a lot of people are put off by Christians who don’t understand this fact or do not feel like respecting it. We need to always consider how our actions will affect other people’s views of us.

Humility is the best defense

In Milton’s narrative concerning the fall of mankind he writes about the temptation of Eve. In his version, Eve was first flattered and her vanity and pride were appealed to by Satan. Pride prevents us from doing so many things and reaping the benefits of so many opportunities. It makes us more susceptible to temptation, it makes us less aware of God wants for our lives, and it prevents us from coming to God and repenting when we sin. Humility is a challenging state of mind to remain in, but it opens us up to what God wants for our lives.

Intellectual v.s. Spiritual

In my church, I have met a variety of people who experience their faith in different manners than other Christians. Let me give an example – on the furthest side of the scale are the Christians who experience Christianity through reasoning and intelligence. They endeavour to find ways to prove that Christianity is real, and know all of the facts and head knowledge, yet find it difficult to enter into a spiritual state of being or to worship or to pray and just experience God’s presence. On the other side are the Christians who are in it with all of the emotions and feel the Holy Spirit and get into worship and prayer, but have a lacking head knowledge. A perfect balance is what is required. Without the head knowledge one will be unable to defend their beliefs, but without the spiritual aspect, entering into God’s presence and feeling His voice and the voice of the Holy Spirit will be really hard.